Friday, September 14, 2012

Splashes of Pinks N Glass(es)

Sometimes, a little touch of something can do wonders to change the whole outlook of an ensemble. For example, this shocking pink, sash-like, obi belt. It’s custom made from a leftover piece of fuschia satin fabric, cut, sewed, with little hooks at the back, and voila, I got myself a very versatile belt.
I could wear it with stripes and checked patterns like this...


.. with all black like shown in this post...


... with pinks like on this post...


... with classic pattern like this post here...


Ow, did you notice that on the last pic I wore glasses? Well, I am shortsighted. I love to read, have been since I was little, and because of some childhood recklessness – like getting my nose and eyes way too close to the books – now I don’t have perfect vision.
Most of the time I wear contact lenses, but sometimes I do wear eyeglasses. I think it’s important to give my eyes some rest once in a while, and give them some chance to “breathe”.
I feel lucky to live in this age where I can find all kinds of eyesight help-tools easily. Nowadays you are able to find fashionable, cheap eyeglasses basically everywhere. Yep, you don’t need to sacrifice style just because you’re wearing glasses!
Some time ago, I got contacted by GlassesUSA.com, a company that sells glasses online and they asked if I would be interested to write a sponsored post for them. Well, since I do wear glasses myself, and I liked what I saw on their website, I agreed to do it.
GlassesUSA.com is a website where you can shop for discount prescription eyeglasses and sunglasses. Their mission is to guarantee the highest quality optical products at the most affordable prices in the fastest time span possible – all across the world.
They also offer a special discount for all my readers. You can take 15% off your entire order amount with free shipping for any order over $50 (Code: FS15), or 10% off any order of prescription glasses (Code: Blog10). Don't forget to join their Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/glassesusa or Twitter feed @GlassesUSA for sales and other promotional coupon info.
I think I don’t look too bad wearing glasses, do I? I feel so Lisa Loeb…


 
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Friday, September 7, 2012

The Security Blossoms: A Letter to My Older Brother


We often hear that what you sow in your youth, you will reap later on in your old age. But I'm talking not in terms of biblical today, but in financial terms instead!

A friend's Mom just died after long illness. For months she was in and out of doctor's office and hospitals, and finally her eldest son took her flying out to a hospital in nearby country of Singapore. She was brought home on a chartered jet just a few weeks ago, since her condition didn't allow her to take commercial flight (she couldn't even sit). I didn't know the lady personally, but my husband loves her dearly like an auntie, since he's been visiting her house and sons since childhood. So, after the funeral my husband told me what the eldest son told him.

The eldest son is a relatively successful businessman with several property and businesses. However, during the interval of his mother's illness, he had to sell some of his properties, his car, AND he still owe lots and lots of money from his very wealthy friend. By lots I mean is like what a well-paid SENIOR manager makes for TWO WHOLE YEARS. Yup, I'm talking about hundreds of thousands of dollars. Billions, in rupiah currency. Not to mention the sold apartment and car. All spent during the months of her mother's illness: doctors, hospitals, medications, trips to Singapore, accommodation, chartered jet, funeral, etc.


Both me and my husband really admire what the son did for his mother, and he said himself that he has no regret whatsoever, it is his duty as a son. But, we also realize one thing: we'd better buy ourselves a good health insurance for our old age, because we really really do not want to burden our children - or anyone - if something like this should ever happen.

I'm glad to say what we've already covered for hospital and medication for up until we reach 70 (or 75, I forgot). Both of us have insurance, on top of health insurance from work.


I'm also trying to convince my older brother to buy at least basic health insurance, for he said that he's already covered by the company he works for. Dear Brother, let's say your company can survive any economic downfall and live forever, if you continue to work there until retirement, you will only get covered until 55. And yes, I know there are Medicare and Social Security, etc. over there in the US, but let's be logical here, Brother. If every citizen is truly and fully covered by the government, there won't be such things as work health plan benefit, and private health insurance companies would have been gone to buzz ages ago. Ow, and if you notice, Brother, how many times have you watched TV shows about politicians political campaign debates about health care? If it's not such a big deal, and everybody is covered, then why all those debate, and why so many people are still and continue to be in debt over health care? Don't believe me? Then read this article here, and there thousands more over the internet.

In this age, with higher and higher life expectancy, old age illness starts way after 55. My Mom and Dad are over 70, and both of them are healthy, thank the Lord. But we never know. We need health insurance the most when we are ill AND cannot work, most generally AFTER retirement. That's why I need to buy and pay the insurance NOW - while I'm young and able to work - for LATER - when I'm old and not able to work anymore.
Of course, the best scenario is if I would never need the insurance, rite. But who knows what will happen many years down the road? Better be safe than sorry!


The insurance that I have maximizes the hospitalization fee instead of life insurance, since we're not having children yet (we might change that later when we have children). There is a maximum coverage, of course, but at least it helps should anything ever happen. A lot.

So yeah, dear Brother, take it from your sister, get yourself an insurance on top of the one you get from work. AND ask your wife to get one too, should you ever get married one day. Trust me, the amount of money I insinuated here is for Indonesian and a bit of Singaporean doctors. Can you imagine how much it would be, Brother, the expenses for US-based doctors? Perhaps like your whole income of five whole years, or more, which could be spent away just in months or less of illness. Or surgery. Or any other medical treatment. Either for you, or your loved one, if that ever happen - because it can happen to anyone.


And to all friends out there, whether you are a working woman or a homemaker, I'd suggest that if you haven't had health insurance to cover you up until you're 70 or more, consider to buy one from a reputable company - one that most likely will still be around when you hit 70.  It's not that expensive. I  started buying insurance about 7 years ago - just a very basic, cheap one since that's all I could afford at that time -, and upgraded it last year to a much better coverage.

I'm not a financial expert or anything, but if you consider to get yourself an insurance, these are some things to ponder
  • Get one from a reputable company with long history that most likely will survive yet another economic crash and still be around when you hit 70. I chose one that went Chapter 11 about 10 years ago, but they survived, they maintained good service during the crashing time, they were fully supported by the parent company, and they're still going strong up til now (and I hope for many years to come).
  • If you buy from an agent, try to buy from an agent who's been with the insurance company for at least 5 years. One who did usually are excellent agents who take care of their clients, take their work seriously (not just a happy-go-lucky part timer who sells insurance today for some commissions and go MIA next month), and will still be around in the next 5 years or more.
  • An agent most likely will offer you a standard package. Think of what you need and ask the agent to custom made a package for your need. For example, if you are a mother, you'd want to maximize your life insurance for your children. But if you are single or a wife with no children, you want to minimize your life insurance and maximize your hospitalization and disability insurance instead.
  • Just buy for the amount you can really afford to pay every month. I wrote can afford, not can buy. It's two different things.
The Bible mentioned a parable about five foolish girls and five wise ones with oil lamps. (Here's a link to the parable in the Gospel) The wise girls brought flasks of oil with them, but the foolish ones did not. And what use is an oil lamp without oil? The parable is about the Kingdom of Heaven, and just like so many things in the Bible, I found that it is applicable in daily life, too. Always be prepared, so you'll minimize risks and avoid future regrets. We cannot foresee what will happen in the future, but at least we are at peace that we have done everything we could and God will take care of the rest.

So, how is it, brother? Have you bought insurance for you and the Mrs.? ^__^



Off white jacket: H&M. Polkadot dress: Miss Selfridge. Shoes: Voir. Pearl necklace and bracelets: gifts from Mom, husband, and friends. Purple rose necklace: Warna MKG.

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Friday, August 31, 2012

(Mom's) Haul (Gifts): Lovely Things from Avatar Country

If you have been following my blog for a while, you might know that I conduct most of my shopping twice a year: mid year and year end, when all the sale and discount parties are happening.

This year, though, mid year came and went and I had no desire whatsoever to shop for anything, except for books - using a free gift card. (Please read the post here). Then Mom and Dad took a trip to rural China, to a place called Zhiang Jia Jie, a scenic natural park of mountains and stones in rural China recognized by UNESCO World Heritage Site where I guess makers of the movie Avatar got their inspiration from. I didn't ask for anything, I have stopped asking my parents for anything since I graduated college and started to earn my own living - unless I give her the money to buy the items with - but Mom came back to visit me bringing a lot of stuff from her trip. I guess no matter how old or financially independent I am, I'll always be her little girl. That's the advantage of being the only daughter (and the youngest one, too) in the family, I think. :)

Thus, though  I didn't do my major mid year shopping as usual, I still get some new clothes and accessories anyway. Thanks, Mom!

Before sharing what my Mom got for me, I'd like to share this...

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So true, rite! Once I read on the news about a mother who literally stood in front of her toddler and fought a bear so the bear won't harm her child. She got into hospital, of course, but can you imagine what kind of love is needed to do that kind of action? It's not just bravery, it's just pure, pure love.

Now, let's get on with the haul or gifts.

The first thing is this beautiful, Chinese style, hand-embroidered pouch. Mom said she bought it since she saw young ladies wore them like a crossbody bag, but I plan to use it to carr;y my cell phones. I carry three cell phones for work, so this small pouch is just the right size and would be very convenient to carry my cells around the office with. It's too small to be a real bag, at least for me, since I like to carry a minimarket in my bag, haha!




I called the dress "almost Shabby Apple" since it looks very similar to this lovely piece from Shabby Apple collection!


Then came this pretty blouse with ultra feminine soft peach color, chiffon material, puffy sleeves and lace collar. The gold buttons at the front add an extra style to it, too.
I love-love-love this sheer top. The colors and animations look like candy! Mom, you know me so well!!
 Mom also got me so many beautiful cuff bracelets. I will only show you some of my favorites, because there are too many of them. I asked Mom why she won't take some for herself, but she said that she's an old grandma and she doesn't feel like wearing statement accessories. I only smiled. My Mom always looks presentable, but I know that unlike me, she's not one who like to primps and put a lot of thoughts about her appearance. She doesn't really care about makeup and fashion, except for her daughter a.k.a me. ^__^
This one is my absolute favorite, because the style, shape and colors are so unique! It's fun, cheerful, vintage-looking, yet modern and edgy at the same time.
And of course, I love anything turquoise. The flower shape is just so pretty.

Mom bought the same style in two different colors, since she couldn't decide which one I'd prefer: turquoise and maroon/burgundy. I love both of them, Mom! You're the best!
Then came the necklaces!
Look at this one! What unusual color! I haven't had any necklace in this color, so I'm very happy about it. Ow, not to mention the double strands.
These two are like baby bracelets with bells around them. Mom bought them for my niece, but my niece didn't want them, so I happily stepped in and claimed them! I love them!!! Won't wear them for work, of course, too noisy and distracting.
And last but not least, my favorite of all, this long necklace with 3D diamante Hello Kitty pendant. I can't tell you how surprised I was when Mom showed it to me. She knows I love Hello Kitty, and pretty much disapproved of my liking, saying I'm waaaay too old for such childish character. I guess she realized now that many grown ups adore this adorable feline, too! (Strangely, I'm not a cat lover, more like a dog person)

The back side. The pendant is 3D, but hollow. Isn't it just adorable!
I wore this in a previous post, too. With the lovely teal dress.

So, that's my mid year (Mom's) haul. Thank you again, Mom! I love you!

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Friday, August 24, 2012

Sometimes All He Needs Is Straightforwardness

It all began with a YouTube video by one of my favorite YouTuber, AprilAthena7, in which his husband, Justin, described in detail how he went the whole nine yards to look for an Urban Decay Naked 2 Pallette - knowing how much April wanted it - and when he couldn't find it, he took a great pain to look up for the colors that make up the pallette online and bought them in individual packages. In reponse to April saying "To be a man and willing to go through all those troubles...", to which he said:

"The manliest thing possible is making my woman happy."

I was like: "Awwwwwwww.... so sweeeett...."

Now, inspired by that clip, I sent the link to my husband, then I dropped hints after hints to him that I would like to have a Hello Kitty swarovski pendant as a gift, pretty please, nudging him everyday how much I love to get presents no matter how small or cheap it is, yada yada yada...

Would you think he'll get the message and start flexing his resources to look for the elusive piece of Hello Kitty jewelry I coveted so much?

Nope.

*Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz....*

Day after day, I just noticed him going home from work, took a shower, polished off his dinner I had prepared, then fell on the bed playing with his beloved iPhone, Blackberry and Instagram thing-y. I can't tell how much I hate those gadgets, they were the last thing he caressed prior to falling asleep and the first thing he says hello to the first time waking up. Sometimes even in the middle of the night!! Perhaps that's why I refuse downpat to have anything more than just a plain cell phone. Because gadgets are like a much sexier mistress to my husband! But hey, I guess he feels the same way about my laptop, my blogwalking and beauty video surfings on YouTube activities! Do you know that a good book (for me) and an Instagram picture (for him) could be more interesting than a spouse? Ho ho, I learn something new everyday in this marriage adventure!


Anyway, enough with the rambling. After a while I realized two things:
  • Comparing my husband to other woman's husband is like growing roots of bitterness. The grass next door often seems greener. Every human is unique, with its high and low points. It's like comparing a rose to an orchid, or a Mercedez with a BMW. The comparison is endless. You know what I mean. Instead I chose to remind myself of his good qualities, like his faithfulness, his trying to provide a better life for us, and his accepting me for who I am with all my flaws.
  • If I still want that Hello Kitty necklace, I need to take drastic measure and take the matters into my own hands.


So I went online and searched on Ebay, until I found the one Hello Kitty crystal pendant I love best, made sure that the seller ships to Indonesia, then emailed him the exact link with straightforward request that said no less clearer direction than this: "Dear Hubby, I really really want this necklace as a gift. Please go to this link and purchase this for me from Ebay, and I will be very happy. Thank you. PS: Ow, and please do it asap, like within this week, not like, two months after this email." Yeah, something like that.

And he did. And boy, how happy I was to receive it in the mail about three weeks later! And you know what, he was so darn proud to see me wearing it, he said the nekclace is very pretty, and he wore this smug face when I went to the mall wearing it and some strangers complementing me on it and asked me where I got it. You would think he went all the troubles to get me the necklace, when all he did was clicking the link I provided and paid with his credit  card! AND, he even begrudgingly said that there's no way a necklace that cost less than USD 10 could look decent. (He finally admitted that it looks grand and super sparkly, like it a real Swarovsky!)

Oh well... I guess some men can take hints and notice what particular girlie things, makeup and jewelry their women want, and some just... don't. In the case of this man of mine, I found out that sometimes, all he needs is a little - or sometimes plenty of - straightforwardness! I have learned my lesson!

Anyway, this is the Hello Kitty crystal pendant he got me. Isn't it just so cute!! And very sparkly! Love it! Thank you, Hubby!
We went to Marche for lunch today, and it reminded me of how much I wanted to travel to Europe, especially Italy. I planned to backpack accross Italy with two friends several years ago, but it got postponed over and over again. Since I got married, I know that each of us could go for a fun weekend to a nearby destination or country with friends, like Singapore or Bali, but there's no way any of us would spend a fortune traveling to Europe if not with the spouse. (Except later on, mebbe, when we get very very rich, and traveling to Europe is just like another trip to the mall, hahaha!) Now that I know how my husband's brain operates, I know exactly what to do.

Tomorrow, I'll send him an email with links to beautiful sites of Cortona and Positano, then I'll type: "I really really want to visit this paradise on Earth one day. Will you take me there with you, Love?"

I'm pretty sure he'll get the message this time. ^_^

Jeans, striped tank, sandals: unbranded. Purse: Stradivarius. Hello Kitty necklace: Ebay. Belt: Charlotte Russe. Bracelets: Claire's Store. Earrings: Singapore.

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