There you go
again! You want that newest glittery, shiny, sparkly object that you don’t
have. How marvelous it would be to
have that small addition into our lives! Surely it would beautify us, makes us
feel like a million bucks, attractive, successful, wonderful, luscious, in love
with life! How can you not have that!
Uh oh. Sounds
too familiar, isn’t it?
That new
shiny-sparkly-glittery object could be a new eyeshadow palette, on sale on
Sephora. It could be that brand new oh-so-lovely rose-colored lipstick that
hold a thousand promises to bring glamour to our look, and therefore,
excitements to our lives! Perhaps it’s the new knick-knack from Dollar Tree, a
colorful glass ornament, a new planner, new stickers for our projects that
might get us to be more… crafty. Or, on a more dangerous path, it could be a
dazzling smile of another man. A man who is not our boring, selfish,
unattentive husband. A man who is willing to listen, flatter us and say we look
beautiful, shower us with attention. A man who is already married. The grass is
always greener on the other side of the fence.
Now let’s
shift our focus a little bit. Look inside your drawer. You have, what, five
eyeshadow palettes that you have not touched for months, because you are
already comfortable with the one neutral palette that you keep using every
single day. Instead of torturing yourself thinking about THAT one palette that
you simply MUST buy, why don’t you think about what are you going to do with
the five palettes already stashed in your own drawer? Watch some tutorial
videos on YouTube and think how fun it would be to play with those five
palettes?
Mix two tones
of lipsticks that have been kept idly in your stash and see how it would come
out. You can create your own, unique, custom-made-especially-for-you, shade of
lipstick. You can even name it to whatever it is your heart desire! Coral
Frost. That’s what I came up with mixing two a pale frost shade that is too
pale for me, with a matte warm coral shade. Coral on the bottom, frost on the
top layer. I got even a better surprise when I mixed the same shades but
changed the layers: frost first, coral on top. It came out satiny instead of
frosty! I felt a bit like LeeAnne Lauder or LeeAnne Revlon. Or maybe not. But
you know what I mean.
What about
finally really get down to it and create craft from your mountainous amount of
craft supplies in the basement? Invite the neighborhood kids if you feel like
feeding your inner Peter Pan and spend an hour or two being creative in your
own Never Neverland! You will forget about shopping for new stickers on Etsy if
your hands are busy having fun.
If you think
that THAT man is much more charming and understanding than your own husband,
well, change your focus to what you’ve already had. Yes, Ladies. The man who
will be coming home to you tonite may not be very exciting, but he is yours and
yours only. Focus on what he has done for you all these years. Think of what he
has
not done for you all these years: he has not let his eyes and heart
wandered to other women, for example. And think about all the wonderful things
you would want to do with him, for him, and for both of you that would make
your marriage felt alive again. Want a picnic in the park but he never
initiates it? Why don’t you prepare the picnic basket, wear a nice autumn dress
and invite him along with you? You cannot suddenly kiss the random handsome guy
you saw at the grocery store, but you can do so to your dear husband. You can
even tickle him a bit and have a laugh!
Don’t focus
on what you don’t have. Focus on what you have, and suddenly you will realize
that what you’ve already had is nice and wonderful, just as well!
For today’s
look, instead of coveting a new dress, I had a bit of fun by giving this old
dress a new, fresher look with some layering. Check it out and let me know
which look you like best: the original look, or the layered look.
