Monday, June 4, 2012

Lavender Rose


Having been living on my own since I was 18, it's a huge difference now that I live with a roomate, a.k.a my husband. Husband? Aw!! I have to admit, I'm not used to that word yet. Marriage is everything I expected to be. I didn't expect a rose tinted world. I expected hard work, a lot of compromises and sacrifices, respect, financial planning, and of course: love and forgiveness. Tons of forgiveness.

There were times when I go back to my old house to pick up my remaining possessions, and I just wanted to cry. I had such a great time living there, it's so hard for me to give up my single life. Fending for myself for years was not easy, but at least I lived it MY way back then.

A dear friend said to me: "Of course, since you've been living on your own terms for so many years, you need a lot of space. A lot of privacy. Right now you're feeling like you're being choked. But it's a step. I took that step too, and I would say, up till now, that I enjoyed single life much better. BUT, if I have to do it all over again, I would have done the same thing. Because despite everything, it's all worth it and I wouldn't want it any other way. You would, too."

Amen to that!

Luckily, my husband is very understanding about my great need for solitude, so he gives me my much needed "me time" this evening. He has arranged to have dinner delivered to our house (I'm still new to this area, I don't even know where to order food), then he's going out and have dinner with some of his college friends. That way, I have several hours of time to blog, catch up on my reading, read the Bible, and organize my accessory boxes.

Thank you, Hubby!





Striped top: unbranded. Lavender flower pin: DIY. Skirt: tailor made, refashioned with black lace to make it a bit longer. Obi belt: DIY. Earrings: Naughty Stores. Purse: Guchi. Shoes: Yongki Komaladi. Jacket: tailot made.

12 comments:

Terri said...

How wonderful to have a husband who understands you! The top is beautiful.

Style Mentor™ said...

I totally understand the need for privacy, especially in a marriage. Some people need to be alone to recharge their batteries, and I am one of them. Wonderful that your husband understands so you can catch up on everything for yourself, including reading scripture and connecting with the Almighty. :-)

GirlieBlogger@Beauty Fashion Blog Seattle said...

Awwww. Your husband sounds like a sweet man. Kudos to him!
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Sylvia @ 40PlusStyle said...

What a lovely top. It looks great on you. Great story too. I can imagine that it's tough to share your house with someone else when you've been living alone for so long. Good luck with it!

Patti @ NotDeadYet Style said...

It is a big adjustment, all the sharing - and so many decisions that now have to be made by two, instead of just you. I wish you the best happiness. You look beautiful in pink!

Kathleen Lisson said...

What a good husband!

Megan Mae said...

Congrats on moving in with your new husband! Marriage is completely different from living alone, and does take some adjustment. What makes it work is remembering to give the other person their time and space. Kudos to your guy for making sure you get "you time".

I love your lacy skirt and pink bag! So pretty.

Pam @ over50feeling40 said...

I also have a need for solitude! My husband has always been sweet to understand...at the end of a day of dealing with parents and students, I often do not want to talk to anyone!! Your outfit is really cute!

Lynne DeVenny said...

I've been married for a while, and like you, still need alone time - and plenty of it. Thank goodness for understanding spouses!

I love, love, love that striped top. Such a great piece to build an outfit around.

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Jill said...

Pretty top! Makes the black suit less serious.

Nicole Feliciano said...

I'm stopping by from Monday Mingle--sorry it took me so long. Glad you've found a great match for you.

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