Friday, July 27, 2012

Beyond Comfort Zone

Beyond your comfort zone, the possibilities are endless. But sometimes God DOES have to kick me in the butt to get me up and moving, since most of the time, I'm just too lazy to leave the soft, snuzzy cocoon of comfort zone.

For me, the single life is the comfort zone. I'm not the kind of girl who dreamed about her wedding day when she was little. She was not desperately want to get married. She truly enjoyed her single life. And not the wild single life ala Sex And The City, just a casual, cozy, simple single life. She didn't need to prove to anyone or scream from the top of the roof that being single is fun, much more fun than married life. She was just content with her own world, her current state of life, who she was and where she was at. And one more thing: this girl truly enjoys being alone most of the time. Solitude was, is, her friend. She thrives on it, she recharges her battery with it.


Then came marriage. I can honestly say it's like a continuation of my  past life. No, I don't think life only begins once a woman is married. I had a full life being single. I had a good life, a good job, a nice place to live in, nice friends, good family, good social life, good solitary life, and was pretty much financially independent. I didn't mind continue being single if it's not in God's book for me to be married. (Turned out the He DID wanted me to get married, since I am a married woman now!)  Nor did I was against marriage, mind you. I just happen to be the kind of person who is content with whatever stage God puts her life at: living with parents, living alone, living in different country, single, with boyfriend, minus boyfriend, and now married.

Only, I didn't say this out loud when I was still single, or else people would think I wasn't normal, or I was in self denial. Marriage, here in my country, is pretty much expected for women, though I've seen more and more couple wait longer to settle. I don't know whether it's a better or worse trend. Might be both?

But I can sincerely say this to single women friends out there, whether you're 19, 29, or 39:

"Life doesn't begin once you are married.
Life begins everyday when you wake up, alone or with a spouse.
This is not a dress rehearsal. This is now. This is it. Live!"


And what do I have to say to my married friends? I'm not married long enough, in fact I'd be delighted if any of you Friends who have been married would like to share insights and experience with me, and I enjoy reading from fellow bloggers who are married. I have so much to learn! I have pondered several things about marriage that I will share with you Friends in future post, though. So, stay tuned! ^_^

Brocade tunic top: Glitter Glam, Isetan. Pants: office uniform. Bag: Hana. Earrings: Accessorize. Bangle: Egypt. Sandals: Voir.

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19 comments:

Lisa said...

Love those shoes!

GirlieBlogger@Beauty Fashion Blog Seattle said...

Really cute sweater. I, too, enjoyed the single life. The freedom was amazing. But I certainly like my married life better, because I have someone to share everyday with.

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Catherine Au Jong said...

your top is so unique!~

Lynne DeVenny said...

While I love your top, that owl bracelet is really speaking to me, saying "Buy one, buy one!"

I don't think it's easy to share a home with anyone, no matter how much you love them, including significant others, children, best friends, parents, and sometimes certain pets :P

I do think it takes a lot of work, consideration, and open communication to make a marriage work. It's a big adjustment in the early years, so definitely go with the flow. Be sure and carve out plenty of YOU time, as well as much-needed date time.

Sandy a la Mode said...

wow, i LOVE your top~!! it's soo unique and really makes a statement!

Diane Cayton-Hakey said...

Love the chevron zig zag on your top and your shoes are quite nice. I have been married twice. Most recently at age 53, so I had many single years between the two marriage and thoroughly enjoyed single life. It's true though... live for now. Life is short.

Patti @ NotDeadYet Style said...

What a thoughtful post - marriage is an adjustment, for certain. You sound like a woman who takes responsibility for her happiness, and does not seek it in outside circumstances. Therefore, I predict you will be happy! Married or single. And you look quite lovely in your gorgeous top today.

Carly said...

Loving the black and white with the pops of PINK!
Happy week to you.
C

Meggy said...

That.Top. Gimmeeeeee!

Love your thoughts, too! I'm married, and love it. but I loved being single, too.

Found ya via Monday Mingle! :)

Meggy from Chasing Davies

Style Mentor™ said...

This is a GREAT post and so true. Everyday is a gift, whether single or not. Love your ensemble too. The pink and black and white are so lovely.

Adin B said...

I love those sweater and your pretty pedicured feet. :) hehehehe.... :) Lovely! Lovely! Lovely! :) Gotta live life to the fullest!

Jill said...

Great black & white look!

Jersey Blogess said...

very very cute top.

Sharde said...

love the outfit, and your inspriational words! :)
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Sharde said...

now following you too! :)

Abby said...

I love your top! Your whole outfit is lovely!

I really enjoyed my single life. Marriage definitely took some adjusting. I love it, but I do admit that there are moments that I look back on my single life wistfully. I think it's important to keep up with your own interests and hobbies.

Jessica Cassidy said...

lovin' those pink toe nails so pretty in pink and you look fab as always
:-) Dropping by from Pink Fridays :-)

Mary Lindsey said...

I love the patterned sweater! :)

-Mary @ Style That Moves

Tina said...

You look so fabulous! Love your top and your pink toenails.. :) Visiting from PF

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