Beyond Comfort Zone

Beyond your comfort zone, the possibilities are endless. But sometimes God DOES have to kick me in the butt to get me up and moving, since most of the time, I'm just too lazy to leave the soft, snuzzy cocoon of comfort zone.

For me, the single life is the comfort zone. I'm not the kind of girl who dreamed about her wedding day when she was little. She was not desperately want to get married. She truly enjoyed her single life. And not the wild single life ala Sex And The City, just a casual, cozy, simple single life. She didn't need to prove to anyone or scream from the top of the roof that being single is fun, much more fun than married life. She was just content with her own world, her current state of life, who she was and where she was at. And one more thing: this girl truly enjoys being alone most of the time. Solitude was, is, her friend. She thrives on it, she recharges her battery with it.

Then came marriage. I can honestly say it's like a continuation of my  past life. No, I don't think life only begins once a woman is married. I had a full life being single. I had a good life, a good job, a nice place to live in, nice friends, good family, good social life, good solitary life, and was pretty much financially independent. I didn't mind continue being single if it's not in God's book for me to be married. (Turned out the He DID wanted me to get married, since I am a married woman now!)  Nor did I was against marriage, mind you. I just happen to be the kind of person who is content with whatever stage God puts her life at: living with parents, living alone, living in different country, single, with boyfriend, minus boyfriend, and now married.

Only, I didn't say this out loud when I was still single, or else people would think I wasn't normal, or I was in self denial. Marriage, here in my country, is pretty much expected for women, though I've seen more and more couple wait longer to settle. I don't know whether it's a better or worse trend. Might be both?

But I can sincerely say this to single women friends out there, whether you're 19, 29, or 39:

"Life doesn't begin once you are married.
Life begins everyday when you wake up, alone or with a spouse.

This is not a dress rehearsal. This is now. This is it. Live!"

And what do I have to say to my married friends? I'm not married long enough, in fact I'd be delighted if any of you Friends who have been married would like to share insights and experience with me, and I enjoy reading from fellow bloggers who are married. I have so much to learn! I have pondered several things about marriage that I will share with you Friends in future post, though. So, stay tuned! ^_^

Brocade tunic top: Glitter Glam, Isetan. Pants: office uniform. Bag: Hana. Earrings: Accessorize. Bangle: Egypt. Sandals: Voir.

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